365 Pause Practices Day 349
People Pleasing Can Lead
to This
The irony of people-pleasing behavior is that no one is pleased in the end. Quite the opposite, in fact. On the surface, someone may appear “pleased” but wait, hold on, the bucket of manure is going to fall on the head, or more likely be dumped on the head, of the one who is NOT pleased after all, by the one who is Practicing People Pleasing!!! Or, vice versa.
YES, THIS WILL REQUIRE
RELINQUISHING CONTROL
WHICH YOU NEVER HAD ANYWAY!
Being Truly Helpful IS NOT People Pleasing
Being Truly Helpful is PEOPLE PLEASING PREVENTION. Yes, that’s right you can stop your people-pleasing maneuvers because you’re not doing anyone any favors. You know your people pleasing is burdensome to you, and the person who is not pleased after all is also feeling burdened. It’s a game played in all kinds of relationships. So, what’s the solution?
Ask your inner Wisdom in any potential People Pleasing situation:
“Is there another way to see this?”
and
“What would be truly helpful now in place of people pleasing?
LISTEN and FOLLOW this Inner Knowing. Trust sanity over
the insanity of people pleasing.
Enjoy the deepening of an honest, real relationship
based in Wisdom and LOVE.
A Personal People Pleasing Story
Who’s Steering?
Years ago one Sunday morning John and I were running late to a meeting. I was driving and decided to “please” John and take the route he prefers EVEN THOUGH I CLEARLY HEARD IN MY MIND NOT TO GO THAT WAY!!!
Sure enough, “Road Closed”. John laughs saying, “Of all mornings to go this way.” Wanting to knock him over the head with the steering wheel if it were only detachable, I yell, “Why didn’t you say something if you knew the road was closed?” “I didn’t know the road was closed,” he continued to laugh which steamed my sight up even more. This was insane, I thought, “Why didn’t I just go the way I heard to go? Now, I am so upset with him.”
The Voice of Inspiration Speaks
Mary, what you are really upset about is that you didn’t listen to and follow your Inspired Mind . . . and you ended up at a DEAD END, LITERALLY.
Worse than the closed entry ramp, what you are really upset about is how you are allowing this little error to set up a divider wall between you and John.
Had you not been people-pleasing, none of this would have occurred.
Next time, pause?
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