Touching In ~ Pause in 2023



Touching In – When the Way Is Not Yet Clear – Touching In


Photo by Mary

When the way is not yet clear

Sharing by Mary ~

being with your inner experience

a feeling stays present, wise words within shed light yielding new sight, butterflies
flutter in your belly, a faint darkness clings, a pulling sensation, the calling you have
heard before is calling again,
heaviness in the atmosphere, sensing something new is on the horizon,
the voice rests, resistance paired with a longing to follow, a call to create . . .

What are your inner experiences saying to you?

What are you experiencing now? Would you say that you are receiving
what you are experiencing, pushing it away, or perhaps pretending it’s not
happening? I am learning that if I am quick to assess what I think an inner
experience is conveying, I can miss out on the truly helpful guidance that is being given.

Right now, as I pause my mind, I am aware of an inner
sensation, a deep pulling even yearning of some kind. Have you ever
observed a similar experience within you? An inner motion beckoning you? What
did you do, or not do? Something is rising to the surface to be known but what?
(and no it’s not what you ate for lunch!)

The experience itself is not urging me to try and figure it out,
analyze it, or inquire about some inner mysterious message.
All that effort could thwart the unfolding, or
at least my awareness of what is unfolding.
Rather, I am guided to wait.
To simply be with that which is.
No effort.

This isn’t so easy because a part of me wants to know the meaning
of this experience now. The who, what, where, and when. I want to DO
something about it. The cubicle mind wants to start planning, to
take outer action. Yet, I am drawn to be with the inner action.

I am aware that I am to continue pausing.

A deep flame is holding an inner vigil.
Inner Wisdom guides me to simply be with
my inner experience. And so, I am.

Experiences such as these are incredible
gifts not to be ignored
or brushed aside, nor are they
forced upon you.

Nuggets of Wisdom will be revealed to you
that speak directly to your
daily life experiences and quandaries ~ in
your willingness to
Pause and Be With Your Inner Experience






Read More

Touching In – An Unexpected Bridge – One Wild Ride


Pause for an Unexpected Bridge

Sharing by Mary ~

July 16th is my birthday ~ Here is my Gift to you

My True Self showed up in a dream the other night and led me on a wild ride. The dream’s colors were immaculately
vibrant and organized with True Perfection rhythmically splattered yet eternally coherent. Not the ego’s version of perfection.

Walking through the forest of colors I noticed an unusually shaped being ahead of me. It stood out even among the colors.
Somehow it was without color though quite distinct. What drew my attention was that this being clearly knew the way to Peace.
As I focused and followed, our pace grew faster and I feared losing my footing and falling into the abyss below. But I inherently
knew and trusted the being ahead so I kept following. I wanted to follow. I wanted to follow because I knew that being was my
True Self beckoning me to follow. I had not an ounce of doubt.

We were on a wild ride now and I was astonished as I looked down only to see that with each step I took, as I put my foot out ‘
in front of me there was no bridge over the abyss below, but one wooden slat appeared beneath me. A bridge was literally
being created slat by slat with every step I took just in time to catch me and provide footing. Yet, I couldn’t see a bridge
ahead of me. As I trusted my True Self, I could only see my True Self and we were on an exhilarating, colorful ride
~ no worry, no fear ~ total freedom.

When I awoke, the message from my True Self was clear:
I can give up worrying.
As I am willing to pause and focus on my True Self,
I can trust that as I step forward one step at a time
I am being provided for.
I need not know the way,
the Way Knows.

How to Know Who You Are

Worrying or overthinking or controlling is a mirage that keeps me bound to my false self not to mention exhaustion and missing out on living who I am in everyday life! Worry is a retaliation against the fear that I myself made. Trying to manage fear!

Your True Self is a bridge created by LOVE.

LOVE IS the absolute assurance that you have a True Self. Your True Self is the absolute assurance of LOVE.

I am willing to replace the practice of worry in the moment with

Pausing for my True Self which is always

Truly Helpful ~

wherever I am,
whatever I am doing,
whomever I am with.
(enjoy the ride)

CLICK HERE To Access Your True Self

A Guided Audio Practice





Read More

Touching In – Pause Eyes Open – Finding Self-Worth


Happy 4th of July!

Pause Eyes Open experience your Self~Worth

Sharing by Mary

You know if we keep listening to and watching the daily news, we could be duped into believing that this life is hopeless,
and why bother Pausing For Inspiration? Who cares about Inspiration, Inner Wisdom, and All~Encompassing LOVE?
Where are they? What are they? I see very little evidence of their existence on the world stage. How am I ever supposed to
experience my True Self much less your True Self with all these little false selves running around causing such a raucous?

Well, it takes two to tango baby, and don’t think those false selves aren’t pairing up
behind the curtain looking for various parts to play on the world stage.

blocking LOVE and Self~Worth from your awareness?
Remember, the me-character (false self) is an expert make-up artist
and makes up a lot of faces to hide pain, fear, and shame. It is crying out not for our
judgment and shame, rather the false self is a call for LOVE.

The me-character, being that it is the thought and experience of being separate from LOVE, isn’t aware of LOVE,
so it doesn’t know how to love. Though we turn to it again and again for guidance on how to love only
to become bewildered about love again and again.

You may ask, “What is LOVE anyway?”
You CAN Practice The Pause Eyes Open
wherever you are
whatever you are doing
whomever you are with
and experience LOVE firsthand
Most of our experiences of feeling unloved and being unloving occur while
we are going about our ordinary day. Eyes open!

Pause for Your True Self throughout the course of any ordinary day.
You may be amazed how Practicing The Pause
shines light in the darkness.

Here are REAL experiences I had of LIGHT shining away the darkness:

The cashier didn’t acknowledge my existence. No “Hello, how are you today?” At first, I was perturbed by
the poor customer service these days. Then I used Pause and asked, “Is there Another Way to see this?”
As she handed me my receipt, I looked her in the eyes, smiled, and said, “You have a good day.” Her eyes
lit up and a big, beautiful smile smiled right back at me. We are one another’s customers!

I was in a funk while running errands when a woman paused and looked at me and gave me a kind smile.
Her willingness to express love opened my heart. I smiled back and my funk fell away.

I was feeling forgotten and excluded by some people. I paused for Inner Wisdom and instead of waiting for
them to reach out, I received the Wisdom to reach out to them. They were very happy to hear from me and
invited me to an upcoming gathering. I had loads of fun!

Thinking about someone struggling with an addiction, at first, my mind went to shaming, and then I got out of
my own way and listened Within beyond my shame. I heard that this person doesn’t need more shame any
more than I need more shame. Shame is the root of our addictions and the unworthiness that drives our
disparaging assessment of ourselves and others and our unwise
decisions, words, and behaviors. I paused and expressed compassion for this person.

we feel unworthy of accepting the TRUTH that we are the
no matter what

What’s In The Pause?
YOU. Your True Worthy Self.
Have you been looking for Self~Worth?

We don’t have to sit down, close our eyes, and take loads of time to Practice The Pause.
We can use Pause this way as a “Quieting Practice” however.
We can also
on the spot
in the moment
here and now
pause your mind
anywhere, anytime.







Read More

Touching In – Truly Loving Myself


How Can I Truly Love Myself and Love Others?

Sharing by Mary

This morning I saw a horrific story on the news.
The hate literally brought me to my knees.
Feeling the weight of hate, fear, evil, and injustice
my heart turned to LOVE.

Trusting LOVE is a Practice.

Receiving LOVE and Letting LOVE love you

If you hate someone or some situation,
give Me your hate thoughts for they are illusions.
I do not need your illusions for they are nothing to Me,
but they are everything to you.
In giving them over to LOVE you will experience
that is Everything.
Have mercy on those you hate and fear
because in your mercy you will see their predicament
and yours as well; hating and fearing.
Give mercy and LOVE will show mercy on you.
The transition from fear to PEACE can be rough
as the ego-self is sure to resist.
The ego feels alone and afraid, yet who is this self but some
made-up defense against LOVE ~ a defense clothed in shame in need of
your mercy, not your fear, not your wrath.
You are not alone, but you think you are,
and that is your greatest fear.
Pause for LOVE my dear for LOVE is always with you.
An Unceasing, Unwavering LOVE that
does not require your understanding or belief.
Receive This LOVE, my friend.
Pause, breathe, and
Let This LOVE love you ~ now.
This LOVE relies on your willingness to Receive its LOVE.
Only then is This LOVE all LOVE is meant to be.
Only then does this life have meaning.
Let This LOVE be your sustenance
so you can stop scrounging through that which is not worthy of you.
Let This LOVE love you, so you can now love.
Not as the world “loves” but as LOVE loves.
It’s not only possible, it is the only way to Truly Love.
. . . and yet still, This LOVE is not a mere thought to be analyzed,
discussed, and studied. This LOVE is a Practice.
So, Practice The Pause!

As I Truly Receive LOVE and Truly Let LOVE love me,
I am Truly Loving Others
and Loving Myself.

It’s a Practice ~ And Here It Is > > >





Read More

Touching In On The Inside of LOVE


Photo by Mary. Chihuly at Missouri Botanical Gardens

Sharing by Mary

ON THE INSIDE OF LOVE. I have experienced the Presence of an All-Encompassing LOVE in my life, but today rather than simply being aware of LOVE’s presence within me or in the atmosphere, I experienced being ON THE INSIDE OF LOVE. These words were literally spoken in my mind during the experience. No absence of LOVE. No separation from LOVE. No exclusions. Only comfort and abiding PEACE.

Today someone reached out asking for help. This person was struggling with pain in their body and was upset over increasing body stuff. Before agreeing to see this person asap as requested, I paused. I received the go-ahead from Inner Wisdom with a direct and strong reminder to Practice The Pause during our time together. That I did.

Throughout our connecting, I consistently paused and stepped back from thinking I knew what to think, say, and do. In my mind, I quietly spoke words to open my awareness to Inspiration’s presence and moment-by-moment guidance. Saying, “Come Inspiration. I am willing to be Led. We open our hearts and minds to receiving healing. I give my heart, mind, hands, and voice to LOVE. Thank you. Peace be with you.” At one point, the person spoke through the silence, “I am so grateful.”

At some point, I felt as if we became instruments ON THE INSIDE OF LOVE. A song was creating and playing itself simultaneously. I smiled. I felt at Home, at Peace. . on the inside of LOVE.

Had I not paused for Inspiration’s help we would have both missed out on SOMETHING WONDERFUL! The person exclaimed afterward, “That was amazing!” I am immensely grateful that we were both willing to receive This LOVE that heals and for following its FLOW.

Have you noticed how ordinary daily life experiences become extraordinary when you Pause, Get Out of Your Own Way, Open to Receiving your Inner Wisdom, and Let Wisdom Guide? Whether you experience inner calm, less reacting, and more Awareness-oriented responding, or get a peek behind the veil out of the shadows and into the light, IT’S ALL GRACE paired with YOUR WILLINGNESS TO RECEIVE. It’s worth a pause.

The ego default mode is

Share free Practice Cards?

A relationship in need of Wisdom?

How Is Inner Wisdom Given, Recognized, and Received?

Wisdom guides me through words and inner promptings, inner and outer nudges, and I am even given visual images in my mind which show me exactly how to proceed.

~ always safe, wise, kind, and truly helpful ~

Post Pause at Home & Office

Practice Pause for questions about your health.





Read More

Touching In – The Mind With The Light On


May is Mental Health Awareness Month

Communications, Relationships, Activities, Situations, and
Circumstances are all opportunities in our everyday lives to
Practice The Pause
Experience Your Mind With the LIGHT ON . . . PEACE.

Sharing by Mary

I stepped out of
being locked in!

Pause For Your Mind Health?

As one who has experienced challenges with my mental
health – anxiety and depression – I know firsthand what it is.
I imagine many of you may also know what it is. Contrary to
false understanding, mental health issues go deeper than
“having a bad day” and are not resolved by sweeping inner
conflict under the rug. They present themselves in myriad
ways so we may not recognize what’s going on.

In my case, the core of the entire system on which I had based my identity proved to be unreliable. Unreliable because it was based on false ideas about LOVE and who I thought I had to be and what I had
to accomplish in this world to truly be loved by LOVE itself and others.
It was a false identity that bred false expectations of myself and others.

Since childhood, I have always been aware of a Wise Inner Knowing guiding me in everyday life, but it didn’t line up with the way the world seemed to operate. I decided early on to keep this Inner Knowing to myself, hence living with one foot in one world and
one foot in another. Don’t worry, it gets better!

One night about 30 years ago going through an unexpected “life crisis”,
I had a dream in which I was locked in a room, but had given
someone else in my life the key that unlocks the door to get out,
but that person had given someone else the key and that person
was nowhere to be found. Filled with fear that I couldn’t exit the
locked room, I began banging on the wall to knock it down only
to discover it was made of paper mache. I stepped out of being
locked in. My inner Voice of LOVE spoke to me,
“See Mary, you had the key all along.”

The Pause Practices ~ a way to find your key





Read More

Touching In – The Healing Power of Pause


The Healing Power of Pause

Imagine, within you is a Healer.

Shared from the Pause Golden
Book, Page 56:

You need healing, am I right?
You know I am right. This life you
have been planning and
worrying about, needs healing.

Healing is the business
of Inspiration Within. Let
Inspiration do the job.

Bring on your life. What is
unhealed? This experience of
“being-parted” will show up
sooner or later in your
relationships, job, daily
activities, health,
circumstances, situations – in
the business of everyday life. So,
to address the healing needed
in these areas, it is best to
address the underlying,
pervasive, often unconscious,
experience of disconnection
in your mind, from Love, and
from your True Self.

Shared by Natalie

Sometimes we think we don’t
need healing. We think, “the
pain of the past is in the past,
right? Why would we give
traction to it by bringing it
forward into the present?”

Then I started the Pause
Practice and something
unexpected happened. I was
faced with a decision, a
choice, to face my past right
here, in the present moment.

A Healing Journey began and is
steering me toward a much-
needed change in perception
about my past, to forgiveness,
to seeing the bigger picture,
and to experiencing Love and
Connection with family in a
new and Inspired way.

I’m grateful to the Pause
Practice for opening my
heart and mind to experiencing my
True Inspired Self.
<< Safe, Healed, and Whole >>

You need Love’s Help with everything
if you want the Healing Peace
that only Love gives.

Click on the Pause for Love
card to
Enlarge, Download, Share
Print, and Order.





Read More

Touching In – Bring Joy



even amid suffering

Mary Shares



I pause. Compassion drives me to ask This Indwelling LOVE, “How can I help?” Do you ever wonder, “What can I do to help the suffering?”

I cannot dash to every corner of the world nor to each and every heart and mind. Yet, there is a LOVE who loves us all, a totality of PEACE that is fully present to everyone, everywhere. PEACE WITHIN. I know this through direct experience. So, I begin to practice “Pause For LOVE” while watching the program. This is important. I don’t need to turn off the tv attempting to ignore or run away from the suffering. After all, some part of me is suffering too, and seeing their suffering shows me my suffering. I can choose to be with suffering.

I receive an answer to “How can I help?”

Bring JOY.
Be joyful in your everyday life.

On one hand, this answer is bewildering. Is that denying suffering? Can I be joyful when I and others are suffering? As I make breakfast, and be with “Bring JOY”, I notice JOY rising up within. As I am willing to receive JOY, this JOY is being shared with others because this one and the same JOY is dwelling within us all. It’s recognizable when I pause.

JOY is knocking on all of our hearts.

As I open my heart to JOY, I realize I have JOY to give, and as I give it, I receive it. As others receive it, they now realize they too have JOY to give. A circle of giving and receiving JOY.

We can choose to be living expressions of JOY
in our ordinary lives.
JOY is our inner strength.


That instant the doorbell rings. There stands a tall, slender black man bringing JOY with his smile as he delivers an envelope we’ve been expecting. I invite him in as John goes to grab a gratuity for him and I scurry over to the drawer of PAUSE supplies and share the Pause Practice cards and books with him. He is delighted. “I’m Thomas,” he says. As we chat, he clearly resonates with PAUSE sharing, “Yes, I’m working on getting my mind right. I’m just starting a new business and this will help. I may call you because I am looking for a mentor.” Thomas and I were BRINGING JOY to one another for sure! That evening Thomas emailed saying he began reading the Pause Golden Book!





Read More

Touching In – A Silent Sound



The LOVE that is always Safe, Wise, Kind, and Truly Helpful.

This is the LOVE that loves me.
No matter what.
Always ~ Unwavering ~ Unceasing ~ Forever

Let This LOVE ~ love you.


A Silent Sound is traveling through the universe
beyond the speed of light ~
a Silent Light on one path
through the center of all hearts
and the axis of all minds.
It penetrates the body of all those open to its Silence.
No matter how many years pass
or come and go
or are projected into the future,
this Silent Light
has no known beginning
for it began of its Own Accord,
before we all knew of Beginnings.
It has no end.
We each find our Life in its Light.
All of us.

received by mary
copyright 2009

iPhone User?
Go to the App Store
Search for
“Pause For Inspiration”
Download our FREE Mobile App

Available on Android Soon!
We’re working on it.





Read More

Touching In – Pause in 2023 – Who Do You Love? – Show me how to love


Who Do You LOVE?

LOVE Shows Us How to Love ~ If We Ask

LOVE is practical and mystical, wise and street smart, still and on the
move, here now and here later, in chaos and in peace, in suffering
and in joy, no matter what ~ that’s how LOVE IS LOVE.

There is nowhere LOVE IS not. There is no one LOVE does not Love.

How Do We Lose Our Way When It Comes To LOVE?

I am using a ONE~LINE PRACTICE that is helping me learn how to love
myself truly. Loving myself does not at all mean what I thought it did.
This practice is infusing PEACE of MIND.

Practicing Loving Yourself?

What does that even mean?
READ LOVE’s answer to my question below.

So I’m having a sleepless night and no amount of Melatonin gummies are kicking in! My experience with the cashier at Whole Foods that afternoon floats into my mind. If she moved any slower, I was going to put my food back. Finally, we meet! I started bagging my groceries because that’s what I do and because in a pause I heard that helping her would help me to stop judging her and the situation. It worked! She looks at me gently saying, “Thank you for helping me.” In an instant, I shifted from judging her and thinking I knew what kind of person she was based on her appearance and unhurried pace, to seeing LOVE in her. As she looked at me, I felt LOVED. My whole state of mind changed.

What one pause can do!

Sleepless hours stagger by and I realize I
am awake for a reason. I ask
Inner Present LOVE, “Why are you keeping me awake? What message do you have for me?”


You are having trouble sleeping
because you are struggling with loving
people lately and loving yourself.

RELAX with this ~

~ PRACTICE Letting LOVE ~ love you
so that you can

~ PRACTICE Truly Loving Yourself so
that you can

~ PRACTICE Truly Loving Others in
which you will realize you are LOVED.

Ask LOVE throughout the day,

“Show me how to PRACTICE LOVING MYSELF right now.”


        ~ Receiving This LOVE that is The LOVE is essential to loving.

        ~ Loving myself organizes my day, reveals what’s important, creates PEACE within, and GIVES ME A SENSE OF PURPOSE.


        iPhone User?
        Go to the App Store
        Search for
        “Pause For Inspiration”
        Download our FREE Mobile App

        Available on Android Soon!
        We’re working on it.





        Read More