A DAILY PAUSE

365 Pauses

WHO ARE WE TO EACHOTHER?

TODAY SAM and I NOT ONLY GOT A JOB DONE EFFICIENTLY, WE COMMUNICATED CLEARLY and WE WERE PRESENT TO ONE ANOTHER.

Sam wasn’t just a nobody and I wasn’t just another old lady losing her hair.

When I first received PAUSE in October 2009, I immediately begin to get excited thinking that this must be some kind of customer service training program I could sell to businesses. As I continued to write, the meaning of the material was expanding beyond my expectations.

Turns out customers are not just people buying things or consumers of services and products. Yes, they are needed to keep a business in business and much more. Customers are you and me.

I paused for Inspiration and heard in my mind:

“We are all customers. And we are here to provide

one another with supreme customer service!

THIS IS FOR THE WHOLE WORLD.

SNAKE IT OUT

The Sewer Guy & Me

Okay, I don’t know what the deal is, but my shower drain is clogged again! I have two screens on my drain and I grab all the hair I can before the drain gobbles it up. I make a call and leave a message with the Hutkin office and within two minutes Carmella calls me that Gateway Sewer will call when they’re on their way. Within 10′ Gateway calls and shows up10′ later. Wow, that’s customer service! My call for help has been heard and responded to!!! A rare event these days.

Yes, I am Gateway’s customer, and I choose to use this situation to see the sewer guy as my customer too! As I pause, I slow down, introduce myself even though I see it on his jacket I ask, “What’s your name?” “I’m Sam.” “Hi, Sam. Thanks for being here. How are you today?” “I’m good,” shares Sam. We climb the stairs to my bathroom.

Sam is very patient as I explain that the drain must be replicating hair otherwise I’d be bald! He laughs and looks closely and agrees I seem to be doing everything possible to catch the hair. What do I need to do? Hire a hair catcher?

I give Sam some space to do his work and I go do mine. Ten minutes later Sam shows me that he pulled out enough hair to cover another whole head!!! We are both baffled and laugh. He secures the screens as best he can for clogging prevention.

Sam’s hands are full so I open the door for him to leave. “Oh, that’s great, thank you,” says Sam. “Enjoy your day Sam. Thanks for everything.” “You too” shares Sam.

That’s Customer Service

Above & Beyond

Sam has contributed to my good day and I trust I contributed to his. It wasn’t just a Hi-Bye, don’t look me in the eye.

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Be aware of the continual presence of

Inspiration Within, PEACE,

throughout the day in your pausing.

Today I join with you in practicing the following:

Pause. Breathe. Rest.

No need to question every feeling, thought . . .

Simply call upon Inner Inspiration and

Receive This Peace

In Peace, watch your feelings, thoughts,

planning, figuring, judging, saying and doing

shift

Shift in a way to serve you so you are now able

to be in the service of yourself and others

It will become transparent that Inspiration Within

is giving you a better way in your willingness to

get out of your own way.

Hope you find my in-the-moment sharing of practicing Peace helpful.

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Peace guides me to join the sun in a walk.

Mary’s Pause – Day 24

I am drawn to use this practice today. Here’s my experience. I am noticing a lot of mental chatter such as – “I really need to exercise, I should go to the gym, but that feels like treating my body like a machine on that elliptical, I’m tired, what shall we do about dinner, I need to email this person and that person, I should just flop on the sofa and watch tv, what would I watch that wouldn’t feel like complete waste of time, time better spent working…???!!!”

I call on Peace and receive Peace. I notice I am grinding my teeth. I return to Peace and relax my jaw. I notice I see all these thoughts as MY “problems” that need MY “solutions.” In Peace I am directed to see Another Way. These thoughts are not problems and I have an Inner Helper!

I recognize I can choose to both take a rest and move through my work being aware of Peace instead of problems I need to solve! My mind clears. I hear the sound of the space heater, a soothing hum. My body relaxes. I am working in Peace sharing this experience with you as it is happening.

The sun just came out and is shining on my face!!!

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ONE BREATH

Empty and full all at once –

somehow – is This Peace.

Personal, yet free to everyone, everywhere is This Peace.

All-encompassing without possession.

Total Freedom welcomes you.

There is nothing you can do to mess it up.

No need arises to understand This Peace for in it,

all your misunderstanding becomes irrelevant.

Welcome Peace.

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STEP BACK:

The decision to get out of my own way and be willing to receive the

Wisdom within me.

MAKE YOUR DAY TOO!

Get out of my own way? What does this mean? How does one get out of the way? First, be willing to see that this “me-character” (ego) is in the way. In the way of your awareness of your True Self, who is not this dispirited “me.” Ego is on the attack, mainly upon yourself, but can be found attacking others – the two go hand-in-hand.

You may think you are forging ahead at what’s right for you or someone else. All the while you are actually attacking yourself. Though you may appear to be doing something of great value, your lack of attention to your greater value is causing you great suffering beneath the appearances.

How does one know one is suffering beneath appearances? Unfortunately, most do not know precisely because they do not want to know. That’s the ego for you! Hence, the need to get out of my own way.

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What is it that one is to step back from, exactly?

12 Ways We Get In Our Way:

1. Taking things personally
2. Being easily offended
3. Getting defensive
4. Making excuses
5. Dwelling on the past
6. Being unforgiving > justifying your unhealed perceptions
7. Have a big but in conversations, “but, but, but, but, but, but, but!”
8. Deciding ahead time what you think about someone – the kind of person he is, her lifestyle, her way of seeing the world, his upbringing etc.
9. Judging a person based on their appearances; Thinking someone is judging you….lololol
10. Believe the ego’s deceiving words – “You don’t know enough to do that” “No one will come to that” “Who do you think you are?” “What will people think of me” “She’s doing that on purpose to upset me” “I might make a mistake” “People will think I think I’m a know it all” on and on….
11. Intellectualizing
12. Believing you are unworthy

ADD YOUR OWN TO THE LIST!

Why get out of my own way?

So I can receive Inner Wisdom

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ONE – TO – ONE – NOW!

This may seem an odd topic really, but in my Morning Pause I began to remember the women I have seen from a distance, in the car next to me at a red light, walking down the street, in restaurants sitting across from a spouse/partner whom is not even aware….I remember seeing women crying.

Their tears bring a reminder to me that though sometimes we feel alone, we are never alone. There is a LOVE that loves us, no matter what, always, unwavering, forever. This LOVE often loves us through one another as we are willing to express this LOVE.

In my Morning Pause as I ask for guidance for today’s email, I hear the words, “Women Crying.” In their tears I remember the tears I have cried in life’s trying times, unexpected circumstances, and simply over the human condition – one of suffering, grief, and heartache. Yet, thankfully, within our experience of our humanness and humanity, HOPE is offered us in one another.

PAUSE IS A PRESENT HOPE

as it is in our Pause Practice that we can recognize

that we are here for one another, one-to-one,

in the midst of everyday life….Now!

This is my mom. She came into my mind while composing this email as she was an example for me as one sees people and pauses for them.
Thanks, Mom.

She Is Worth A Pause

So, as I see a woman crying, or even pass by a woman
in the grocery store whom I can tell is “on the verge”,
I pause. My chatterbox mind wants to get on with my day,
so, I pause again and call upon LOVE whose knowing of her
heart is certain, and I entrust her to LOVE.
One-to-one, we are blessed
in ways seen and unseen.

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A CIRCLE OF GIVING and RECEIVING

Healing Bad Vibes!

Inspiration roams freely and infinitely through the thoughts and heart silence of your True Helpful Self.

Every moment is an opportunity to see anew.

To hear a call for LOVE and respond.

As we Give truly (from Inspiration), another Receives Inspiration whether it appears to be received or not because each person’s True Helpful Self recognizes Inspiration and receives it. As their True Self receives Inspiration, my True Self receives Inspiration too and our True Self continues to give Inspiration. It is a Circle of Giving and Receiving!

HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?

We are all CONNECTED IN INSPIRATION.

Nothing blocks the flow of Inspiration! How cool is that?

We Awaken One Another

Inspiration, through our Inspiring HeartMind shines away the darkness of the cubicle heart/mind – the me-character hiding in the shadows. Inspiration awakens us to our sense of connectedness; to our True Self and to one another. We are moved from believing we are separate to experiencing we are connected (pg. 134).

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LOVE will heal what I thought could not be healed; Loves who and what I thought could not be loved.

Giving ~ Receiving Pause Practice,
Healing Bad Vibes

Say I am in a conversation with someone and feeling irked OR someone floats into my mind and I notice I am judging them/condemning even. I notice I’ve lost Peace of Mind. I don’t feel right. YIKES! Don’t want that. Here’s what I practice:

I Pause, and in the Pause, I notice I don’t like my judgmental thoughts and the lack of stability they bring. I breathe. I remember there’s Another Way so I Step Aside from the onslaught of bad vibes and open to receiving Inspiration’s LOVE to heal the gunk.

As I begin to receive LOVE, the CLARITY OF iNSPIRATION seeps in and I begin to see the other person without my judgments and reactivity. As I continue receiving the Peace in the Pause, I begin to experience a connectedness with my Self and this “other” person. Really, Inspiration’s LOVE is “doing” the Giving and Receiving – I don’t really have to do anything, but simply be willing to LET LOVE BE LOVE. Often, mine and/or the individual’s attitudes and behavior change, not always. Yet, he/she is receiving LOVE whether they are aware of it or not. Someday they will be……….AWARE.

This is not a mental gymnastics exercise! It’s Inspiration at work.

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THE MAGNIFICENT SEVEN

Reporting Back As Promised!

Yul Brynner, Steve McQueen & Charles Bronson must have paused! Our Strategic Planning meeting was the best meeting our Pause board has ever had. I practiced Kids Can Pause beforehand to calm my emotions and we began by practicing Pause For LOVE. Results:

We were each present, listening, did not fear sharing with directness which is always helpful, and we were patient. WOW!

Here’s my report as promised ~ LOOK HOW PRACTICAL PAUSE IS…

7 Gifts I Received In The Pause AND SO CAN YOU!

INNER WISDOM:

Guided me to not to be personally offended. Step Back.

PEACE OF MIND:

There will be none if I try to force others to be who they are not and/or expect them to do things they don’t want to do, this includes myself.

INSIGHT:

I saw inside my True Self which showed that I can also receive Wisdom in my willingness to listen to the Wisdom others are receiving.

CLARITY:

It’s not my job to be in control. In fact, I am not in control! There is a VAST VIEW with a plan I know not of, nor do I need to know. Pause for The VIEW.

VISION:

The Pause Practice is present in our current time/space as a way to access this Wise Inner Source by Practicing the Pause in daily life with anything and anyone, including ourselves to give and receive the LOVE we seek. That’s all 4 Steps of the Pause!

GOALS:

When I receive inner guidance, I will begin “Training the Trainer.” Teaching ordinary people, like you and me, how they might apply Pause and use their experiences of doing so to help and inspire others to Practice The Pause. A domino effect 1:1.

NEXT ACTION STEPS:

Pause. Practice Pause For LOVE to Receive Encouragement. This LOVE IS the encouragement, comfort, and help we seek. Now you are prepared to encourage another and you will receive encouragement again. Giving and receiving are one in the same.

Practice Pause and See What Gifts You Receive.

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Let’s Choose Something Practical Today & Practice Pause

It may be obvious to you by now that Pause is no typical, superficial idea.

No dos and don’ts, costumes, make-up, phony smiles,

etiquette, how to walk, talk and dress.

No one really wants to go through life faking it; customers can tell the difference

(remember, we are all one another’s customers).

You know the difference between real and unreal.

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Mary’s Practical Pause – Day 18

Something tells me that today I’ll be needing the Kids Practice because the little girl in me can get emotional!

Today I will need to Practice The Pause, FOR SURE!!! Our Pause board is having a strategic planning meeting and I want to truly be present, get out of my own way, listen, and receive Inner Wisdom. In fact, I am just INspired to begin the meeting with a group Pause Practice. See how Inner Wisdom works in the moment?

Practicing Pause will help us all PREPARE TO RECEIVE:

1. Inner Wisdom
2. Peace of Mind
3. Insight
4. Clarity
5. Vision
6. Goals
7. Next Action Steps We Can Take

I will report back to let you know

how it went.

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