The decision to get out of my own way and be willing to receive the
Wisdom within me.
MAKE YOUR DAY TOO!
Get out of my own way? What does this mean? How does one get out of the way? First, be willing to see that this “me-character” (ego) is in the way. In the way of your awareness of your True Self, who is not this dispirited “me.” Ego is on the attack, mainly upon yourself, but can be found attacking others – the two go hand-in-hand.
You may think you are forging ahead at what’s right for you or someone else. All the while you are actually attacking yourself. Though you may appear to be doing something of great value, your lack of attention to your greater value is causing you great suffering beneath the appearances.
How does one know one is suffering beneath appearances? Unfortunately, most do not know precisely because they do not want to know. That’s the ego for you! Hence, the need to get out of my own way.
What is it that one is to step back from, exactly?
12 Ways We Get In Our Way:
Taking things personally
Being easily offended
Dwelling on the past
Being unforgiving > justifying your unhealed perceptions
Have a big but in conversations, “but, but, but, but, but, but, but!”
Deciding ahead time what you think about someone – the kind of person he is, her lifestyle, her way of seeing the world, his upbringing etc.
Judging a person based on their appearances; Thinking someone is judging you….lololol
Believe the ego’s deceiving words – “You don’t know enough to do that” “No one will come to that” “Who do you think you are?” “What will people think of me” “She’s doing that on purpose to upset me” “I might make a mistake” “People will think I think I’m a know it all” on and on….
This may seem an odd topic really, but in my Morning Pause I began to remember the women I have seen from a distance, in the car next to me at a red light, walking down the street, in restaurants sitting across from a spouse/partner whom is not even aware….I remember seeing women crying.
Their tears bring a reminder to me that though sometimes we feel alone, we are never alone. There is a LOVE that loves us, no matter what, always, unwavering, forever. This LOVE often loves us through one another as we are willing to express this LOVE.
In my Morning Pause as I ask for guidance for today’s email, I hear the words, “Women Crying.” In their tears I remember the tears I have cried in life’s trying times, unexpected circumstances, and simply over the human condition – one of suffering, grief, and heartache. Yet, thankfully, within our experience of our humanness and humanity, HOPE is offered us in one another.
PAUSE IS A PRESENT HOPE
as it is in our Pause Practice that we can recognize
that we are here for one another, one-to-one,
in the midst of everyday life….Now!
This is my mom. She came into my mind while composing this email as she was an example for me as one sees people and pauses for them. Thanks, Mom.
She Is Worth A Pause
So, as I see a woman crying, or even pass by a woman in the grocery store whom I can tell is “on the verge”, I pause. My chatterbox mind wants to get on with my day, so, I pause again and call upon LOVE whose knowing of her heart is certain, and I entrust her to LOVE. One-to-one, we are blessed in ways seen and unseen.
Inspiration roams freely and infinitely through the thoughts and heart silence of your True Helpful Self.
Every moment is an opportunity to see anew.
To hear a call for LOVE and respond.
As we Give truly (from Inspiration), another Receives Inspiration whether it appears to be received or not because each person’s True Helpful Self recognizes Inspiration and receives it. As their True Self receives Inspiration, my True Self receives Inspiration too and our True Self continues to give Inspiration. It is a Circle of Giving and Receiving!
HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?
We are all CONNECTED IN INSPIRATION.
Nothing blocks the flow of Inspiration! How cool is that?
We Awaken One Another
Inspiration, through our Inspiring HeartMind shines away the darkness of the cubicle heart/mind – the me-character hiding in the shadows. Inspiration awakens us to our sense of connectedness; to our True Self and to one another. We are moved from believing we are separate to experiencing we are connected (pg. 134).
LOVE will heal what I thought could not be healed; Loves who and what I thought could not be loved.
Giving ~ Receiving Pause Practice, Healing Bad Vibes
Say I am in a conversation with someone and feeling irked OR someone floats into my mind and I notice I am judging them/condemning even. I notice I’ve lost Peace of Mind. I don’t feel right. YIKES! Don’t want that. Here’s what I practice:
I Pause, and in the Pause, I notice I don’t like my judgmental thoughts and the lack of stability they bring. I breathe. I remember there’s Another Way so I Step Aside from the onslaught of bad vibes and open to receiving Inspiration’s LOVE to heal the gunk.
As I begin to receive LOVE, the CLARITY OF iNSPIRATION seeps in and I begin to see the other person without my judgments and reactivity. As I continue receiving the Peace in the Pause, I begin to experience a connectedness with my Self and this “other” person. Really, Inspiration’s LOVE is “doing” the Giving and Receiving – I don’t really have to do anything, but simply be willing to LET LOVE BE LOVE. Often, mine and/or the individual’s attitudes and behavior change, not always. Yet, he/she is receiving LOVE whether they are aware of it or not. Someday they will be……….AWARE.
This is not a mental gymnastics exercise! It’s Inspiration at work.
Yul Brynner, Steve McQueen & Charles Bronson must have paused! Our Strategic Planning meeting was the best meeting our Pause board has ever had. I practiced Kids Can Pause beforehand to calm my emotions and we began by practicing Pause For LOVE. Results:
We were each present, listening, did not fear sharing with directness which is always helpful, and we were patient. WOW!
Here’s my report as promised ~ LOOK HOW PRACTICAL PAUSE IS…
7 Gifts I Received In The Pause AND SO CAN YOU!
Guided me to not to be personally offended. Step Back.
PEACE OF MIND:
There will be none if I try to force others to be who they are not and/or expect them to do things they don’t want to do, this includes myself.
I saw inside my True Self which showed that I can also receive Wisdom in my willingness to listen to the Wisdom others are receiving.
It’s not my job to be in control. In fact, I am not in control! There is a VAST VIEW with a plan I know not of, nor do I need to know. Pause for The VIEW.
The Pause Practice is present in our current time/space as a way to access this Wise Inner Source by Practicing the Pause in daily life with anything and anyone, including ourselves to give and receive the LOVE we seek. That’s all 4 Steps of the Pause!
When I receive inner guidance, I will begin “Training the Trainer.” Teaching ordinary people, like you and me, how they might apply Pause and use their experiences of doing so to help and inspire others to Practice The Pause. A domino effect 1:1.
NEXT ACTION STEPS:
Pause. Practice Pause For LOVE to Receive Encouragement. This LOVE IS the encouragement, comfort, and help we seek. Now you are prepared to encourage another and you will receive encouragement again. Giving and receiving are one in the same.
Something tells me that today I’ll be needing the Kids Practice because the little girl in me can get emotional!
Today I will need to Practice The Pause, FOR SURE!!! Our Pause board is having a strategic planning meeting and I want to truly be present, get out of my own way, listen, and receive Inner Wisdom. In fact, I am just INspired to begin the meeting with a group Pause Practice. See how Inner Wisdom works in the moment?
Practicing Pause will help us all PREPARE TO RECEIVE:
There is violence in this world. How do you face violence? You cannot truly and effectively face the violence appearing outside of you without facing the violence going on inside of you. The choice is one of avoidance or peace. Inner violence is the cause of outer violence. . .
Here is where you must face yourself. Evil comes into the world for a purpose – to be overcome by Love. You are unaware of Love’s power and so you do not trust it. You think Love is a little thing. Inspiration cannot help the one who thinks so little of Love. You find it easier to trust fear because you have wrestled with it on the outside and know its ways. You have failed to wrestle with Love on the inside and so you do not know Love.
Your little knowing knows a “little love.”
Overcoming fear with LOVE
Face-to-Face With Darkness
I imagine you have experienced evil, inner and outer. I certainly have. Many years ago I was face-to-face with a person. I remember I was filled with TOTAL JOY about a potential new Pause project involving sharing Pause with kids in schools and approached her to share the good news. As I did so, I first asked her how her day was going, she replied, “Fine” in an unusual tone of voice – off Center. Then I became aware of what I can only describe as intense darkness filling the space around us, however strange that may sound. Without thought, I paused, and “heard” in my mind, “Step away” and I followed Inspiration’s direction. My TOTAL JOY remained intact.
Receiving this Pause material truly humbled my false self – the part of me I look to for my sustenance, my identity even. Imagine that! That which we receive from Inner Inspiration does not belong to us. Rather, it is all of us, who belong to creation, to that which is truly creative. Such is how we experience our connectedness in creativity – hearing certain music, when nature manifests as Beauty, warmth from a stranger.
I was aware that The Pause clearly wasn’t of my own making and that it was Truly Inspired. Yet, I also saw that sharing Inspiration comes with responsibility. The responsibility to practice what you teach and let go; let go of what people think – their approval or disapproval and let go of the outcome!
As I worried about being able to do any of this, Inspiration assured me in no uncertain terms saying, “WNYHOO* (dba “Pause For Inspiration) does not belong to you. Not only are you not supposed to “do” WNYHOO alone, you cannot do it alone. WNYHOO belongs to everyone.” Thank God, what a relief! (page 88 Complimentary E-book)
*WNYHOO-NOW is an acronym for World Needs Your Help One-to-One – NOW! We now DBA (do business as) Pause For Inspiration, which was given in a pause.
Pause Humility Practice
I am humbly available to Inspiration. No hurry. Relax, listen, open to receiving Help and giving Help. Inspiration’s peace is always present, always being given. As I am willing, mine is the choice to receive, mine is the choice to follow, the Wisdom of Inspiration (Pause For Inspiration Practice Step 4)
through desolation and consolation….pause in the midst of trekking
Inspiration IS Gentle
Recently in my lack of motivation to exercise someone said to me, “You’ll get your second wind.” I replied, “I think my second wind has come and gone!” Thankfully, the Pause Practice keeps me trekking with yet another wind.
Yesterday while waiting to pick up some dinner, I realized the fitness center where I “work it all out” on occasion, was right there too. “NOOOOOOO”, I felt. Then I paused. I stepped back from my resistance. Paused again for Inspiration. Hmm, I am willing to use two machines for my torn rotator cuff therapy. I strolled on over and did it! Inner Wisdom did not push, shove, and drag me over to the gym, throw me onto a machine, and yell at me to exercise. It was all quite gentle and accomplished with ease. How?
Here’s the “Access Code to Pause for Inner Wisdom”:
W I L L I N G N E S S
I was willing to release my feelings about exercising and preconceived notions of what constituted “enough exercise” such as: must go for at least 30′, must increase my heart rate, must use willpower, guilt….NOPE, WILLINGNESS! My guidance can also be to not exercise.
As I rested in the pause this morning, I expressed gratitude for the privilege of being still, the magnificence of the barren, still tree out my window striking newness each morning, and the awareness of the Presence of Gratitude.
Today’s Pause to Receive Gratitude Practice
Pause, there is a Gratitude
present among us and with us.
Today, I am willing to set my self
aside – not because I am
unworthy of Gratitude, but
because it is in setting my self
aside that I am able to receive
Gratitude’s giving supplying all
of my thoughts, words, and
I receive all Gratitude being given
me today, so that tomorrow I
truly have something to give.
the presence of inner wisdom
available to us all . . .
and then some
Mary’s Pause – Day 14
Years back I dropped into our local Carmelite Monastery where all are welcome to pause and be still. I was feeling a bit depleted and in need of nourishment. I sat on the pew and whispered under my breath, “I am so grateful to be here.” Lifting my eyes to the altar, I “heard” back – that is, I felt Silence speak, “…and I Am grateful for you.” I about fell out of the pew. Not because I haven’t heard Silence speak before, but that This LOVE is grateful for me! I’m just a pion – why would All Encompassing LOVE be grateful for me? Apparently LOVE does not see us as pions!
Nourishment received as I chose to receive this Gratitude given. Tank filled. Smiling.